Is this life? Because it’s not at all what you had in mind. Which is confusing because in a lot of ways, it’s exactly what you aimed for. I mean, you’re doing pretty well, you have a good job, reliable income, benefits, a decent spot. So, what’s the problem? Why do you feel so stifled?
At one time are another, we’ve all felt stuck between where we are and where we really want to be. Life is full of in-between stages. And in those pivotal moments, decisions are critical. The choices you make can impact your entire life. It’s at these times that you have to ask yourself some crucial questions, and that internal conflict can get real. Sometimes the voices in your own head aren’t even loyal!
If you have ever in your life felt stuck, here are six arguments you’ve probably had with yourself:
1. How did I get here?
What type of millennial nonsensical malarkey is this? It’s called being a grown-up. Welcome to adulthood where maturity replaces fantasy and responsibility overrides impulse.
2. I hate my job.
It’s a job! What you need to do is consult this template, check these boxes and climb this corporate ladder. That misery you feel? You feed it with stuff. Bigger house, better car, upgrade, more stuff.
3. Really? That’s your fix?
4. What about faith? What about everything we’ve been taught to believe?
5. Wait…What?
Don’t worry, because on those sleepless nights when your goals and dreams slip past the filter into your subconscious mind, I’ll be here to mute them and I’ll remind you that you are sleeping on a California King Bed with one thousand thread count Egyptian linens, in your dream home with your partner and 2.5 kids. You will have made it! And, what more could you possibly want than that?
6. Bruh?
At the end of the day, what good does it do to check all the boxes at the expense of being you?
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